Thursday, July 9, 2009

How do you mark time?

When you think of past events, how do you remember when they happened? Do you mark time by historical events? By where you worked or lived? By who was there? By where you were?

It may be a bit morbid, and probably more information about me than you care to know, but I mark time by who was/was not alive at the time of the event. Like most people, I’ve had many losses in my lifetime. Today marks the 21st anniversary of my most significant, life changing loss. My first husband, the love of my life, was killed tragically in a car accident 21 years ago today. In one split second, life as I knew it would never be again. Suddenly, I was a young widow and a single mother.

Even though now years later, I’ve managed to somehow create a different life, actually a very happy life, this date is always one of great reflection for me. I am grateful for so many things; for 10 years of marriage to him, for the beautiful child we had together, that we learned to build a life out of love, hard work, humor, true joy, caring and understanding. His positive attitude towards life was contagious and I am forever blessed by his influence and love in my life. So on this day, I’ll remember, reflect, honor and give thanks for my many blessings and for the people that I’ve loved and have loved me.

Today, while we have the opportunity, let's take a moment to say "I love you" to the people we love.



  1. Thank you for sharing this Sandy and I am sending ((hugs)) to you. Life changing events make us who we are today...course, all of our life experiences do. From your writings, I can tell you are a strong woman with great courage and love in your heart.

    To answer your question about how I mark's usually by music...a certain song will be my favorite at one of those times in my life and to this day, when I hear it, it takes me back to that moment in time.

    May you have a peaceful day today, with the memories of you loved one.

  2. Thank you for your comments, Kathleen.
    Music! What a nice(r) way to mark time. I like that :)

  3. I have been thinking about your post all day, a very moving tribute. I just wanted to send you all my good wishes for your special day.

  4. Tears welled up for the amount of love that you had and lost and your continuing recognition and appreciation of it. Thank you for sharing, it is nice to be reminded to tell out loved ones how much we care.

    I mark time with what bead projects were designed, Terracita, in Mexico 2005, Victoria in Holland 2003, Urchin Lariat in San Diego 2006....

  5. Thank you all for your caring thoughts.
    Music and bead projects to mark time - fabulous ideas!

  6. Sandy:
    I noted that you've signed on to follow along at Your Mother Knows and I want you to know that I'm honored that you did! I'll be coming here now to see what beautiful things you create. And, as to this post today, what a lovely tribute to the spirit of one who brought such learning, strength, and beauty to your life. I was very moved to read it. And, very happy to read, even more, how you took those gifts and moved forward to craft your life in such wonderful ways. Brava! Brava!!